Deciding to separate is a very hard decision to make and rarely comes with full certainty. Usually, the love is gone, the hurt is too big to recover from or heal, or someone has already moved on. Whatever the reason, you now have to split. Split everything. This usually means negotiating with the person who you have decided is not the one for you.
You are probably on the emotional roller coaster, struggling with the overwhelming feelings that come with this big change. Whether this is your decision, your spouse’s, or has been reached jointly, the shock of it is real. You may be struggling to deal with the uncertainty about your future and the endless questions that haunt you at night. At times, you may feel relieved and hopeful … only to have that swallowed up by anger or guilt. If you have children, you are worrying about them. On top of all of that, you do not know how to interact with your ex or soon to be ex.
You might be at the stage in which you are talking to others. Everyone knows someone who has been through this and, generally, has an ear full of well-meaning advice. Unfortunately, this can add to the confusion and may send you in the wrong direction. It is possible to do this yourself, however do you know what you are doing? The danger is that your separation ends up in court, your children get hurt, and you and your ex wind up feeling bitter and angry about oneanother.
At Family TLC, we have seen it all. Families who come to us early and accept our guidance to make the process of separating/divorcing peaceful. Parents who are locked into fixed positions regarding custody often find that they are not parenting well independently. Children become victims of the process, as they are exposed to toxic stress or lose their relationship with a parent. Exhausted families, who have been in the battle for years, are casualties of unnecessary conflict.
We are here to help you get through this, as we have been helping separating families since 2000. No matter what stage you are in it, is a good idea to call us. Jade at Family TLC client services will answer the phone. She will gather the pertinent information and be able to match you with the right therapist or coach at Family TLC. You and your family deserve the help it takes to make this transition peaceful. Call Jade now.