Infidelity Counselling

People in relationships have relationship rules. These rules can apply to sex, money, dialogue, intimacy, and much more. Infidelity occurs when at least one person feels a rule has been broken. In significant relationships, the reality is that not everyone talks about all the rules and, as a result, many rules are assumed to be clear. Infidelity is when someone breaks a promise and the other person feels betrayed. The person who is betrayed experiences moderate to severe trauma; leaving them experiencing  a barrage of questions, difficult emotions, and even physical symptoms. The betrayer struggles as well. In such cases, the  relationship is most certainly damaged.

After the affair or betrayal is exposed, the questions that follow are “Now what do we do?” “Do we stay together and rebuild?” “Do we separate?” These are very complex questions and hard to answer on one’s own. The trauma makes it difficult to function daily and, cosnsequently,  making a major decision—one which will impact the rest of your life–is next to impossible.

Since 2000, many couples have come to Family TLC to decide should we stay or should we end it. Those that decide to stay learn how to get over an affair or betrayal. Those that decide to separate learn how to move through the trauma and emotions. Either way, the individuals come to understand that the trauma and injury of the infidelity is an attachment injury which needs to be repaired.