Do you have gray hair? Have you been in a long term marriage? Are you going through a separation? Getting divorced? Then you are getting a gray divorce.
Perhaps you are rethinking your retirement, you have an unhappy marriage, the children are independent, you are abused, or you have no love left for your spouse. It feels like you should just hang in there–after all you have been doing this for many years–but the thought of staying is worse than leaving.
Gray divorce can be quite complicated for baby boomers, because you are navigating retirement and divorce at the same time. The finances you and your spouse have counted on for retirement now have to be divided, and the cost of running two households is much more expensive than you had anticipated or planned for. In addition, your adult children may get involved and complicate things. They may take sides. The adult children might try to help by expressing or even imposing their expectations, goals, emotions or opinions on you. Unfortunately, the adult children’s intention to help often undermines or impedes the process.
With the right professional support and separation process, you can preserve your wealth and relationships. What that means is life after a gray divorce can be okay. At Family TLC, we believe using a Collaborative Divorce process, with one of us as the family health professional on your team, will minimize the time and costs, as well as helping you achieve peace and closure. Contact us now so we can help both of you manage the emotions, prepare for the negotiations, and ensure you are in charge. We can help you navigate the expressed adult children’s needs. Our help will save you money, time, and emotional hardship. Family TLC is here to help.