In second marriages, a blended family is one that includes children from one or both of the individual’s first households. Children may experience a myriad of emotions in this situation:
- Left out of your choice. “Why do I have to live with these other kids?”
- Uncertainty. Your child may not know what to expect or what it will mean to have this new person or people in his or her life.
- Anger. Your child may not like this change.
- Concern. They wonder what their new step-siblings will be like, and how their relationship with their biological parents will change.
These are all common reactions, and there are two important strategies that will help. The first is to be realistic – things won’t be perfect overnight, things may get worse before they get better, and your progress may even move backwards at some points. [Read more…]